Days 22: 31 Days Reset Your Life – Remove Negative People From Your LIfe
I am a PRO at this one and I have been for many years. I tend to cut ties with the “negative” people in my life toward the end of the every year, but I don’t mind also make some cuts during the year as needed. This exercise challenged me to make a list of all the people that bring me down. Those that don’t add anything to your life rather constantly subtract from your life with their complaining, negativity, laziness… you get the drift. This could be people you work with, or connect with in any fashion – church, Facebook, text and includes any and everyone you are in contact with.
Yes, there are some people that may be negative that you may not be able to get rid of completely, but distance yourself as much as possible. For example, if your boss fits the bill, you may not be able to get rid of him, but you could limit the interaction and you could change your reaction to their negativity.
And YES, the negative person can be YOU! Gasp! If that’s the case here’s the modification: Take a journal around with you and make a conscious effort to identify when you are negative. Ask probing questions as to why you feel the way you do and how your thoughts can be changed next time.
Before I posted this, I really wanted to assess if I could be included in my list of negative people. If I am being honest with myself, I would say that a year ago and the five years prior, I would have to answer yes. But, I have been really working hard in the last year and 1/2 to get out of my rut and part of that was trying to get rid of my naturally pessimistic ways. MAN, it is HARD!! Not only am I naturally pessimistic but I am also a realist and I am not trusting of people. No, seriously I took a test in my MBA program on how trusting I am of people and on a scale of 1 to 5, with 5 be the least trusting, I was a six!!! LOL! Just kidding, but I was a 5. It was then that I realized that I go into to all relationships guarded and it’s up to the other person to earn my trust. Not a recipe for happy, balanced woman with a lot of friends. Who wants to be bothered with having to prove themselves to me?!?! No one.
Sorry for the rant but I feel that if I am going to the most out of this program, I have to be honest with myself and with you.
My take away:
This post made me realize how far I’ve come in my journey to find my happy self because I am not where I was. I still have a ways to go and I know this is not an instantaneous fix – I will have to continuously work on being less pessimistic, slightly more trusting and making an effort to find my happy on a daily basis.
Do you have a lot of negative people in your life? Is the negative person YOU?
Til next time…
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