Moments of Clarity: Pursuit of Happiness in Relationships
Today I had a few eye-opening moments of clarity. I had to re-cut ties with someone who should not have been given a second chance, but I have no regrets because I learned a lot about myself in dealing with this person and I confirmed the values I desire in a man.
Over the last few years, I’ve been working on changing the things about myself that I don’t care for or that could stand to be improved. One of those areas is romantic relationships. I’ve been single for a long time – I could say it’s partially a busy life, being picky and choosing to remain single to keep my peace. But one of my goals for 2014 is to date more and if I can get a monogamous relationship, all the better.
Moment of Clarity: Realizing my foundation
After today’s cut, I had an instant feeling of relief, freedom and happiness. You’re probably thinking, “Why wouldn’t’ you be sad?” The answer is, I’m not sad because I’ve laid a solid foundation for myself. This guy is successful, smart, handsome, makes good money, drives a nice car and lives in a nice home. He is used to women throwing themselves at him for his attention because of the material things he can offer them and acts as such. I don’t have to play into that because I am a stable, independent, responsible women who makes her own money and takes care of her household. So, I have the freedom to choose who I let in my world romantically regardless of what they bring to the table and when I’m done, the ties are cleanly cut.
Moment of Clarity: Getting back to my values
If you follow my blog, you know back in November 2013, I did a 30 day reset program and one of the exercises was to identify my core values. I had to narrow them down to 10 and here’s how they looked:
- Personal time
- Mental Stimulation
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